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Relationships | General notions

People always act from their current level of consciousness. You can only understand the behavior of a person who has a lower level of consciousness or stands on the same level as you. Regardless if it is a concept or a personality, you are incapable of comprehending something that exceeds your current level of intellectual, emotional and spiritual development. That should never discourage you, on the contrary, it should only serve as an inspiration to grow. The realization that the level of consciousness is behind all actions will increase your capacity for tolerance, compassion, and forgiveness.

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People always do what they think is the right thing to do. People always find a way to rationalize their actions. The more one is intellectually developed the more sophisticated justifications he will be able to synthesize. Exercise your observation skills to detect your own mind-traps as well as their presence in others.

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People execute their own priorities regardless of what they claim. They will always prioritize their personal interests over yours. If someone doesn’t deliver on what he promised to you, it means that it is not important to him no matter what he might say. It’s rather simple. If it is important — you see a result. If not — you hear an excuse.

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People who don’t respect your time don’t respect you. Time is the most valuable resource one could ever possibly have. If people mistreat your time, show them where the exit door from your life is. Never tolerate disrespect.

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People will treat you the way you educate them to treat you. People will always be testing the degrees of their freedom with you. They will be pushing the borders to identify the point where you start to exert pressure in response. Some of them will be pushing you unconsciously, some will do it deliberately. You have to be rock-solid when it comes to drawing the line. Never condone impudence. Those who mistake your kindness for weakness shall be humbled.

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People will wrong you. Love them still. You will inevitably meet people who allowed selfishness, anger, cruelty, and other vicious qualities to be ingrained in their ego. The response to negativity with negativity is the most instinctive but not the most effective thing to do. Try to see what kind of pain lies behind their actions.

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People will stab you in the back. Forgive them and move on. Your capacity for forgiveness reflects your scale as a person. Those who do evil to achieve personal goals are bigoted and narrow-spirited people. Living life in their petty-minded reality is piteous and deserves nothing but sympathy. They are the way the world allows them to be. Likewise, you too can just allow them to be. They will be neutralized by the Universe that unlike you never forgives an overinflated ego.

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People will swear at you. Respond with “thank you”. Politeness is disarming. Trying to wound the pride of a person who doesn’t have one is like punching the air. The insult thrown through emptiness hurts no one but the insulter.

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Goodness must have fists. Sometimes, you may find yourself in a situation when you won’t be able to walk away. You will be called for action. You will have to become “the Hand of God” if you will, his righteous rage for the wrongdoers. Those moments are seldom and they are not hard to recognize. Sometimes, violence is needed to protect the innocent. Act when everyone around you is shying away from doing what is right.

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There is a way to the heart of any person, a method of becoming instantly lovable. It is Reverence. When a person you talk to feels that you address him projecting your deepest respect, he will open his heart to you. There is a simple rule about Respect — give it to get it. Learn how to treat a person with respect and you made it halfway in winning him over.

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Here is a simple way to think about your relationships. Your life is a car and you are driving it. You started your ride when you were born. There were already some people sitting on the backseats — your family. If they were kind to you, you should do your best to help them get to their destination point.

As you continue your ride through life, you will see people standing on the road hitching a lift. You will decide to stop for some of them. Let them know where you are heading right when you meet them. They should be informed of your purpose and your destination. If you both agree that your paths align you might decide to invite them into your car to share the ride. Sometimes, your passengers will find that your paths are no longer aligned. When the time comes, let them go.

Rarely, you will fall in love with some of the people you meet and you will want to share the beautiful ride together until the engine of your car breaks down. Those are friendships for life. Take care of them.

Be a welcoming host but never tolerate anyone who makes a mess inside your car or even worse tries to take control of the steering wheel. Give a warning at the first violation of your rules and a good kick in the butt at the second.

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You owe this world. It’s a mistake to think differently. You owe this world because you’ve got work to do — you will illuminate the paths for those who wander in darkness. But before becoming a beacon of hope you shall first become a source of light for yourself. Perfect the relationship with your own mind. Before anyone else in this world, you owe it to yourself.

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