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Lessons from 2017 that made me stronger

And things I refuse to do in 2018

Lessons of 2017.

I write these notes to myself and maybe you, my accident reader, will find something in it. I hope it will inspire you to write your own list of lessons of the past year. Please, share it with me. I would love to read it.

Health

  • Working out every day may exhaust you. Learn how to take time and rest.
  • Keep experimenting. Learn about the variety of activities out there. Try them all, let the practical ones stay.
  • Muscle mass is good-looking but energy consuming. Big muscles eat a lot. The bigger you are more food you have to process. Eating = aging.
  • Fasting = rejuvenation. Give your body 1 day every month to completely rest from food.
  • Stay lean, eat clean. Endurance and longevity are the primary objectives for 2018.
  • Implementing cold showers in the routine is the discovery of the year.
  • Sleep! 5–6 hours of sleep every day are not enough to recover. Bad for the brain!
  • Take care of your skin. Sun cream in the summer is a must. Wind protection cream in the winter as well. I know you don’t give a damn about the looks but if you don’t take a better care of yourself you will soon look like an elephant’s ass. No one wants to be friends with an elephant’s ass.

Relationships

Partner.

  • Don’t try to argue with your woman! Again! Just shut up. This is just a waste of time.
  • Spend 30 min of quality time with her. No distractions. Eye contact. It does real magic to a relationship.
  • There will be moments when you will feel like she is not appreciating your efforts. She does. Selfless service is the foundation of love. Keep it up.
  • Send them voice messages in the gaps between your activities. Let the people you hold dear know that you love them.
  • Stick to the people who want to stick to you. Work hard, provide your best service to them, and elevate them. Invest in these relationships, foster them, they will become your lifelong treasure.
  • Let go those who want to go. Thank them for the time they shared with you and let them go.
  • People will betray you. People will turn away from you. Love them still. Even when someone stabs you in the back try to understand their motifs. If you can, never use their motivation as a starting point for your own logic. If you can’t, forgive and move on. Elevate your consciousness to another level.
  • Go home. It’s really time to visit them. You are young and everything is still ahead of you. The time with parents, on the other hand, just fades away. It will never be back. Don’t make yourself regret. Go home.
  • That’s a tough lesson to comprehend, but don’t help your parents financially until you build a solid savings foundation. Parents are OK with money for now but you have to understand that you will never be able to save the lump sum of money to invest if you keep sending all of it home.
  • Share their wins with them. They look more for your appreciation than you looked for theirs when you were a kid. They need to be sure they succeeded as parents. Let them know.
  • Finish every conversation with sincere “I love you”. You never know which one will be your last.
  • Take it easy on yourself. Sometimes you are too intense, too demanding. It becomes an obstacle because it also makes you unforgiving. You are flawed. That’s ok. Embrace it. Amplify your strengths, eradicate your weaknesses but do it at a calm pace. Life is a marathon, not a sprint.
  • Perfectionism is imperfect. Strive for doing your best but don’t obsess about it. As long as it is 80% functional it is functional. It will do the job. Don’t waste time polishing the details. The “compound effect” is more important, let the volume build up.
  • Meditate. Write. Read. Observe all of your thoughts and emotions. Do not engage! Just observe. This is the foundation of mastery. Create environments where you will learn more about yourself. Deploy solitude.

Environment.

  • Place yourself in the places with people that already have what you want to have. I have an intent to be better at writing — I follow the best wordsmiths on Medium and Quora, I read books. I have an intent to improve my endurance and teach my brain to solve kinetic puzzles well — I placed myself in a rock climbing club. I have an intent to create time to do more stuff — I placed myself in the serenity of an early morning. Place yourself in the setting where you have no other choice but to undergo the desired transformation.
  • There is a huge difference between swimming in a crystal clear mountain lake and swimming in a bog. Relocation is an objective for this year.
  • Change jobs. It will help to meet new people and further improve your skills. Treat your colleagues nicely, you never know when you will need their help.

Career.

  • You know what to do. Just do your job and do it well.
  • Focus more on your strengths. Use them. Work on weaknesses in the free time.
  • In the meantime — create content that will help others in their journey. Don’t be afraid to be candid and frank about your flaws and misfortunes. People who are also genuine will always appreciate it. A fool is not the one who makes mistakes, it’s the one who persists in claiming that he is infallible.
  • Have a long-term strategy. Find some minutes every day to contribute to something that will become your legacy. Keep an eye on automation and AI.

Money.

  • Earn.
  • Save.
  • Create passive income.
  • Invest.

Personal growth.

  • Find mentors.
  • Read more!
  • Do things you have never done before.
  • Declutter. Get rid/don’t buy all of the stuff that doesn’t contribute value to your life!

Brightness of life.

  • Travel more. This alone will be enough.

Spiritual life.

Hello, 2018!

Come at me, bro. I am ready. There were many quakes that swayed me from one path to another. I learned a lot about myself and I know that the upcoming year is going to be awesome.

In 2018 I refuse

I refuse to care about things that are out of my control. I will focus solely on the things within my circle of influence. I will dedicate all my energy to become the force of a change I want to see in myself. I don’t undergo the transformation, I am transformation.

Happy New Year! 🎅

I know that you set up big goals for yourself and regardless of whether you have decided to make them public or not, keep in mind — you are destined for greatness. Forge yourself into someone you will be proud for.

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